The last few days has been a gift.
Traveling to Dallas. Attending Off The Charts Live 2015. Meeting new friends and Mastermind buddies. Feeling the Texas humidity on my skin (something I am not used to being from California). Smiling. Laughing. Learning. Giving. Supporting (and feeling supported).
And I was present for all of it!
You see, there was once a time that “being in the present moment” was a concept that I intellectually understood (and as a Virgo – tried to analyze to death). But, I could never figure it out. How do I do it? I was always worried about what was going to happen in the future and telling myself that I would be happy when ______________ (you can fill in the blank).
Now, years later, I can tell you…BEING in the present moment is the best feeling ever!
Life is about the journey, not the destination. It is the journey that molds us and shapes us. It is the journey that makes us who we are. It is the journey that gives us the skills and ability to handle that which we call into our lives.
You are EXACTLY where you are supposed to BE.
Starting a business can be fun in the beginning. Then you are met with resistance. The first “NO”. And the first traces of FEAR creep in… “What if no one likes my product/service?”. “What if everyone hates me!?”. “What if I am not good enough?”. You want to run in a corner and hide.
Believe me…I get it!
You look at other women and see their businesses taking off and you wonder… “Can I do that?.. I would like to do that.” Comparison is the thief of Joy (Said by: Theodore Roosevelt). Stay in your own lane! Know that everything is as it is supposed to be. And it is about the journey.
Everything you have ever done has led you to this moment. Embrace it! Love it! Be Grateful. Then rock this moment out…it’s all you got girl!
In business (and in life) you must focus on what you can do today to get the results you want in the future. Each step you take today, will get you closer to tomorrow.
1. Accept your current circumstances
Now when I say “Accept”, I am speaking about understanding that your outside circumstances are just that, your outside circumstances. They do not dictate who you are or who you are BEcoming. It is YOU who decides that!
Once you can accept your outside circumstances, you can release into it. Let Go. There is no resistance. And all the energy that you used resisting can be channeled into developing YOU. Into making the change you desire to make.
2. Decide to change it
CHOICE. This is huge. We all have it, and in every moment. You know, it is said that there is over 86,000 moments in a day. 86,000! I know right?! That is a lot. That means you have the opportunity to make 86,000 difference choices if you wanted. All it takes is a decision.
I had a conversation with a friend recently and they had an ah-ha moment (don’t you love those!). They said to me: “Everything. It all comes down to CHOICE.” And they were right!
Take a look at what it is you desire. Then decide to make that a non-negotiable. Focus on what you can do moment to moment to move you forward. Napoleon Hill, who wrote “Think and Grow Rich” said that DESIRE was “The starting point of all achievement”.
3. Take action
Once you have chosen your desired outcome, make a plan of action and start working that plan. Growing up, my father would always say: “Plan your Work; and then Work your Plan” (courtesy of my Grandfather – and whoever else may have ever said it!).
Organized Planning and Focus. These make for a good recipe. However, they are still no substitute for taking ACTION! So, make sure not to plan to death, and start WORKING that plan! It is in the action that we learn what we are capable of and the tweaks that need to be made along the way. So, jump on in the water!
4. Ask for Help
It was not until I asked for help (Read: got out of my own way, and realized I did not have to do this all by myself) that things really started shifting in my business. Sometimes it takes a lot to ask for help, at least if you are anything like me.
When I asked for help, that is when I got the resources I needed, the support and the guidance to show me the way. BEFORE: I had all this information (Read: Information OVERLOAD) and multiple possible roadmaps (Yikes!!). The minute I hired my coach, my business changed; because I had changed (Crazy right?!). I had made a decision to make my desires a non-negotiable.
As you go forth in your business and life, know that the journey of entrepreneurship is one of the greatest personal development journeys you will ever go on. I am here to support you! Aside from marriage and having children, entrepreneurship is masterful at showing you who you are and who you can be.